Marriage has been on trial since the onset of modernity. Today, it is on serious trial.
In most societies, marriage is seen as a measure of success. A person who is married is considered a responsible person and is respected in society. As such, those who are having difficulties or troubles in their marriages hide this fact from society least they be seen to have failed in this societal fundamental. But if you are close to the couple and probe further, you will hear tales of woes - woes that are retarding one's or both parties' mental, social and financial wellbeing and growth.
Despite these woes, societal recommendation is often, "Endure, marriage was meant to be endured." This endurance has sadly wrecked many psychologically, socially, and financially - and for some. tragically led to the grave. Marriage is not "a do or die affair." I thought a union one voluntarily entered into was supposed to be enjoyed and not to be endured?
Critically, what really do we want from marriage? is it companionship, sex, assistance, and/or children? Can these things be had outside of marriage - without one getting married?
What does one seek ultimately in life? Is it not HAPPINESS? In the future, men may find a way to live their life without the need to get married. Or maybe the institution of marriage have to be refashioned and redesigned.
Do not misread this piece. There are those who are having wonderful marriages. But it will be wrong to assume or expect that because you are having a swell time in your marriage, others too should in theirs. Such assumption or expectation ignore that fact of human peculiarity.
N/B: I am writing a trilogy to be titled, Marriage: Yesterday, Today, and Tomorrow. It shall be posted when I am through with it.
By Philip Udo